Action Comes before and After Criticism

 

A couple of days before, while cleaning up my room on weekend, after a booze party on Friday night at my place, I got some papers in my room, kind of torn pages from a diary or journal. There was not a single good words written there about me. Yes after working hard in office, spending good enough time at home, managing all the financial needs, buying new stuffs whenever required, dealing with familiar tensions, I was actually having a mind-set that I am doing good. I even gave myself 9 out of 10 in everything. I didn’t show my anger to anyone, I accepted my personal discomfort when I had to support my family, but there was not a single good words written there about me. Yes, after reading those, the whole day I spent in understanding what went wrong and what fault I made. Yeah, I got a few. I understood a few things I ignored considering it would not be noticed but it was noticed and noted down. All of a sudden I started feeling very low. It felt like I failed in an exam though I tried my level best.

Some negative thoughts also came in my mind like I must not do any more good things. I would have to ask the writer about the false blames, but slowly after spending a whole day with myself, after writing out a small poem, after watching India-Sri Lanka cricket match, I regained my mental spirit and decided not to live in any kind of negativities around me. I made a few rules, regulations for myself to follow. I don’t know how much my readers will connect with this but atleast it made me feel happy, made me strong enough to move on.

1. Never get in to an argument which has no ending
2. Never listen what other people say about you
3. You didn’t take birth in a day and that was also not in your control. Handling any situation demands time and be wise to allot that
4. Nothing comes for free, not even social service. You get tax exemption, happiness and sometimes a bit fame too
5. Those who doesn’t have enough work or those who have never achieved anything in their life of their own, are the front runner in criticism business, avoid them
6. Nurture hobbies, don’t make yourself so busy so that you don’t get time for what you actually enjoy
7. Don’t keep grudge on anything or anyone, immediately react but don’t drag that far
8. Enjoy companies of friends, but remember, if you enjoy, then only or else not necessary to get surrounded by people
9. Exercise without fail. Alarm clock should not wake you up, but your passion should
10. What is right is always right and what is wrong is always wrong. No need to live with something wrong hoping it will be right someday. It will never be
11. Study even when you are earning good because studies keep you updated with things and works as natural brain refresher
12. Attend calls, send mails, chat with people but avoid expecting anything
13. Save money, save more than you could. Make savings a habit more important than earning also
14. Enjoy every second. The moment you are dull, you must be sure very soon your surroundings would be dull and you would land in to a soup, middle of nowhere
15. You can’t change anyone, so don’t try. Yes remember, you also don’t change yourself for anyone. You are fine, good enough
16. Apart from all the above the things, do some meditation every day and walk for atleast 10,000 steps

Debraj

15.02.2016

Gurgaon