Posts Tagged ‘Feminism’

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In no way I feel women should be given equal rights. It is not a matter of necessity, it is a pure propaganda, for which urban literate people are fighting with each other and those who just don’t bother are facing the same existence crisis every single day. Moreover, the demand for equal right is a goddamn fucking joke. Women already are equal to men. I am talking about the places where this sense of equilibrium is asking for serious oxygen. I meant to say it has appealed to the literate and urban generation only. In city, we have enough time to think and distinguish things as per our own wish. Whatever you say right, most of the time I find it wrong. That’s the clash. Black & white, Urban & rural, men-women…who does fucking care except their own bread? Who has to earn his own bread, he knows the value of it, who eats bread earned by someone else, gets time to create turbulence among society. And there the concept of Pink comes.

The moment girls try to come out of their own color and get missed with guys, guys think they are giving ‘hints’, they starts thinking whatever they want can do with a girl, though there is strong laws and enforcements against that. Then why? Even quite aware of strong laws and probable enforcements, still why there are many cases of Rapes, Molestation etc are increasing day by day? Here the subtle statement comes. It’s kind of arrogance and then a feel of insecurity. It’s that feelings which forces one to show the power to prove superiority. It’s the same show offs which the person used to see it throughout his upbringing between his own mother and father. It is the eternal clash between two different sexes. None writes about the everyday trouble a man faces in his married life, none talks about the urge of having sex is considered max once or twice in a year and still the man is officially not allowed to have sex with other women though it’s a kind of physical requirement. How many books have been written on domestic violence on men? Very little research on this and surprisingly even lesser see the light of publication!

Then? What is the issue? Both of them are somehow molested, terrified and still the system to move on without any prejudice.

No, here is the conflict. That’s the beauty of the movie ‘Pink’. In a scene Mr. AB said “No Means ‘No’, ‘No’ itself is a complete Sentence.”

As conclusive statement, Pink is not a movie on being strong Womanist. It is actually a fantastic movie where one should know the power of the sentence “No” first and then other things. It is wonderfully said, knowing ‘no” is more necessary than understanding ‘yes’.

Debraj

26.09.2016

Gurgaon

Well, probably anyone reading the headline should agree with me or start calling me ‘jerk’ or some ‘asshole’ like the way it has become one of the most common way used for male by their women. According to women, most of the guys are ‘pervert’, ‘jerk’ and most of the times ‘ass hole’. Family values have become very fragile now days and thus the numbers of divorce cases have been increased extensively. People are more in to living free than being in bondage of so many social issues, family drama etc. overall economic problem also responsible for such things. Where people don’t have any monetary stability, there people actually dare to think of getting married and increase social bindings. Thus, a ‘home’ we used to see in our childhood days are going to be some ‘ideology of old days’ very soon and the more we are in to this forgetting stage, the more we are making our generation clueless of how to live good, stay healthy and think positively. These insecurities lead us to change the definition of liberty, happiness. We are in to more materialistic things to be happy than being spiritually happy. We can take example of anything for this this.Image

There was a time when people used to go religious places in their holidays, now new generation rarely go there. According to them, money can buy anything and money doesn’t mean only mere salary business. It means you can take legal loan from your bank through credit cards or by directly applying to them mentioning your purpose. People plan for abroad trip for holidays than making a list of good travel destinations in their own country. We talk like we are the king of the world even if we don’t have any money. Physical, mental stability has gone somewhere and we are in to more show of business than gaining something with hard work. Men were the initial victim and thus they have suffered almost three decades to regain their own position.

Amitabh Bachchan, Dilip Kumar and then Hollywood movies brought the change in them. Besides scope of higher studies increased almost at the same time, result stupid copy of Bollywood Heroes and then some good qualifications helped them to earn bread happily but when the scope of sitting on top post got saturated, people inclined more on the copy of western culture than being Indian.

Now its time for girls. You are sitting in one of your favorite late night hangouts when a sound that resembles something close to a pack of hyenas in heat pierces your eardrums. It is a group of 5-10 girls, most likely in their 20’s, shrieking in unison as they celebrate another Vegas Bomb. Nails of a sloth across a chalk board would be more inviting than this horrific mating call. Listening to them you would think that a naval vessel just docked in the harbor. They are loud, obnoxious and their conversations laden with profanity and vulgarity. Everything is hyper-sexualized. Either talking about their latest boyfriends who slept with her for the first and last time before disappearing in the crowd like a coward or about someone who actually had more capability to get someone better than that ‘bitch’ whom they know for long (means he should have got the lady who is making the comment, actually out of jealousy) and thus they name it to be only for having a physically close fun night.Image

Meet the modern Indian ‘young lady’. The one who apparently thinks she is man. How this happened, or why it happened is a source of debate. I’m not implying that young men and women can’t party and behave reckless or risqué—it’s fairly standard and reasonable for young people to do so. However, until recently the majority of these young women would still at least attempt a feminine front, even if deep down they were trashy. It used to be deemed shameful to behave in such a manner, especially in public. Openly trashy behavior is now not only tolerated, but encouraged by young men and women alike.Cosmopolitan readers should know Men generally do not mind a woman who can be ‘one of the guys’, but not at the cost of her femininity. It is a complete turnoff to hear a women swear excessively, drink beers from a can, smoke cigarettes and be openly vulgar, violent or over sexual.Women should act feminine, not masculine. Straight men are not interested in dating or having sex with other men. We like women because they are just that, women. Women should be fairly soft spoken, polite, and carry themselves with at least a certain degree of modesty and mystery.  Dare I call it class?

The language coming out of girls mouths now day is deplorable. To hear a women drop two or three ‘F bombs’ in a single sentence is not uncommon. Listening to them verbally shred other women in the ultimate act of hypocrisy is not only disgusting, but a huge turnoff. Not to mention the ultra-aggressive types that want to verbally or even physically scrap with other women in their vicinity. And of course there is open discussion about their sexual encounters and conquests.

May be I am sounding orthodox or some womanists or pseudo-intellectuals will come to start arguing on whatever I have written above but it’s a fact, I have mentioned in my early blogs also, we all need a space first, a space to share, a space to love and a space to live together with proper respect, care for each other. It’s ‘cool’ to have a cool girl in group but tough to live life. If there is no value in a relationship, then there is no bondage in it. For a girl, their Dad is their first super-hero and no girl on the earth will deny that. If that can be true, then we guys brought up seeing one woman infront of us most of the time, she is our mom. Friend can be anyone, partner can also vary, but basic things can’t be compromised. If living together doesn’t include love, then my dear all Indian women, you need not to change at all but if you need to make it lovingly, then you must have to be passionate about everything.

A few days before, while coming to my office, I was with one my colleague and he showed me a lady, who was wearing a micro mini-skirt and everything revealing top. She was holding a cigarette in her hand and a glossy bag in other hand. I took a minute to check all the details of her. Her knee-long far boot was red and from distant also, everyone can make out how much thickness of make-ups being used. I do agree, it was her choice of dressing and she had full rights of it and who am I to comment on that? Neither I bought her the dresses, nor am I an anti-woman bustard. I should have kept my eyes off her if I had so many problems. Yes, I hope, I hope, in the same way we shouldn’t start ignoring girls, women. That day, living & loving on this beautiful earth will not be a good idea.

Everyone has their own rights to live happily but there should be some distinct difference between living being a man and a woman. Living healthy and being happy doesn’t cost money. On one hand we are blaming man for smoking, roaming topless even in open area and on the other hand our women are doing the same. On one hand we are blaming their smoking habit and on the other hand women are smoking to look a bit modern. I can’t remember last when I saw a women with good waist. They are more interested in having huge ass.

People often blame ‘sexual liberation’ for it but this really more of a semantic tank than a true scientific explanation. Now seven in four women dress like men, three in ten smokes and one of them even more than any average male smoker, one out of ten take drugs.

It may be our men’s fault that they have forced them to act like that to remain safe in the society. May be sociologists will find a lot other god damn reasons but somehow it has already been and very soon more, it is going to be the biggest social issue. To become man, women are behaving ruthlessly in professional fields, in domestic environments and sometime in their own society too.

I feel, now women have decided to believe in one point, i.e. it’s impossible to ‘have it all’ by combining a happy home life with a fulfilling career, and too some extend none can ignore the fact too.Image

Now the topic of acceptance is coming. Again I will talk about some economical problem. Now a days women are getting much more education than ever before. They have been given reservations in every field of their living, may it be a railway reservation or getting admission in a college. We, men are not seeing any insecurity for their outperforming growth but somehow a feeling come in every women’s mind whenever they receive a criticism from a man, i.e. I am actually doing better than him and that’s making him jealous. It is now a common and dangerous fact that, they have started acting like a man even in relationships too.

Where are those ladies once men used ‘heartthrob’ for them? Now women are slowly becoming men and men are remaining as men.

It was never a man’s intention to tame them. It’s just a matter of fact that, men have been ruling for long and women acted as a backbone to them. Now if we find them asking for the throne, then who knows it will not be a battle and in battle it’s all about fighting between two opponent sides.

It’s going to be tough time very soon.

We all are going to be only ‘material’ very soon.

Mumbai

07.05.2014

A latest update in the Feminism Imagedevelopment worldwide and in Turkey is ‘Stop spreading your legs’. Actually this is a protest against the ever nourishing habit of male to dominate female in every way, may it be at home or may it be in bus, train. According to them, male community considers themselves superior than female. According to them, it’s not that they got a huge penis or balls so that they need space to keep that but it’s the mentality of disturbing female in every way possible.Image Funny side of this kind of post is that people eat such kind of junk so easily so that it got populated very easily. All the social networking sites flooded with updates from and the stories of how they were man-handled or misbehaved by male. After the Nirbhaya Incident took place in New Delhi, India, from then onwards every Newspaper started giving rape as one of the important happening topics to be published and as a result, what happened? Neither rape case came under control, nor people started respecting women in a day. Actually I am not sure whether I should tell it or not but I feel, they are making fun of themselves. One can’t reach on top just by having some external support or fan-followers. To reach on top, you need to have some qualities at first and if you are sure that already you have those, then please use that. Why do you need to blame someone or drag someone down to reach your place or get your position? Hope I am not confusing. Now a day we are depending more on social networking sites than confessing directly. The lady in the picture should have protested then and there to get her proper place for sitting instead of putting it on twitter, making it a colorful issue and then asking for rights.Image We poor Indians, consisting of a few Pseudo-Intellectuals also started crying the same asking for equal rights for both men and women. Now let’s get into the current situations of India. Here in every way, there are 33% seats are reserved for Women and the rest 66% is for general. Means, if number of ladies is more than 33%, then they can take admission in the general quota also. Education, Offices (private or government) are bound to follow this rule. Now come about the transport system in India. Buses keep almost 40% seats reserved for ladies and the rest for general, means even an aged man cant seat in the ladies seat if any ladies is waiting for it but in general seats anyone, may the person be ladies or gents, can occupy it happily. Discount has been given on the railway tickets, be it in local train or in distant train. Maternity leaves are there but no paternity leaves as they don’t have to bear the weight of baby or take the pain of bringing him up. None cared about the struggle a man faces during that period. So what happened? Men started thinking that already women are being taken care by the government, the why to provide special privilege everywhere? Actually women are losing respect in the eyes of men and where there is no respect, there is no care and where there is no care, and there is no co-existence. Someone said very well, Heart and Brain, both are the most important organs of a human body. Problem arises when brain claims to act as heart or vice versa. If there is a problem, then why don’t brain talk to heart or whatever for once to bring a solution and close the chapter! No, in that way superiority complex will be hurt. If there is a small mistake done by a man at home it’s a social issue and even a major issue becomes minor or could be avoided in case if it happens with men because they are the main brain of a family and the society whereas women are considered to the backbone of these. Cerebrospinal fluid is in total confusion, whom to follow, the person who gives instruction or the person, who manages it. I fully agree with the campaign against the dominant mentality of male but we need to understand that if those who are behind it, really respect women, then they should start respecting their existence at first. Start carrying a dignity while meeting a gentleman and become a bitch while facing a dog. Why to take help from outside like social networking sites or something like that. Don’t you think by making it a social issue, actually women are defaming themselves. Its like crying in distress. Become bold my dear twenty-first century ladies, not only with your clothes, but with your mentality and attitude. Stop spreading legs, my good wishes for your campaign but you better solve it with care, not by declaring a fight. And if women want to make it a fight, then I feel, another century to wait.Image

While coming in train, I had a long chat with one of my close friend and by birth she is a lady and still continued to be of the same sex. Actually we were pretty good friends before my marriage and then after marriage, as usual our communication decreased and thus whenever we talk, even being a guy I talk for almost one hour. We were worried about one our common childhood friend, who turned out to be a gay. Initially he was so scared to declare the fact thinking his family, society will not allow him to live in the society happily but after a very few days he is now proudly announcing the marriage with his male, partner and as its not legal yet in my country India, so he decided not to make it legal but to arrange a get together. I have already expressed my love for both of them and promised to join the ceremony. My friend, named Lisa, with whom I was talking in the morning also decided to join us there in Bangalore in the coming month. There we started our chatting and then only I noticed a lady wearing red tank top and semitransparent white ‘T’ on it. she was good looking and so I was checking her out and found, she wore a red colored panty too and that was covered with another a lesser semitransparent leggings. I was over the phone and couldn’t control appreciating the sexy beauty by saying, “what a goddamn fucking sexy appealing goddess”. Though it was not loud enough to reach the girls ear but was enough clear to reach the microphone point of my cellphone. My friend immediately got pissed off by hearing such nasty words from me and asked what happened and actually what’s the thing I saw, which made me to comment like that. I kept on telling her, convincing her that there was no bad intention or in anyway, I didn’t try to dishonor the lady. Even I didn’t mean to say that the lady wore the dress to look sexy in the eyes of gents, if she is not a lesbian. But again the old proverb, u can’t expect a lady to understand you unless it’s important to her or something related to sex, and I said that too. Thus the topic of ‘Womanism’ came.

I am dividing my discussion into three paragraphs.

  1. The definitions and meanings of Feminism and Womanism, and the bridge between these two words.
  2. Actually what general public think of it
  3. Conclusion and my views with some suggestion for the society

 

According to Wikipedia, The feminist movement (also known as the women’s movement, women’s liberation, or feminism) refers to a series of campaigns for reforms on issues such as reproductive rights, domestic violence, maternity leave, equal pay, women’s suffrage, sexual harassment, and sexual violence, all of which fall under the label of feminism. The movement’s priorities vary among nations and communities and range from opposition to female genital mutilation in one country to opposition to the glass ceiling in another.

The movement began in late nineties and gone through three stages:

  1. First Wave Feminism was oriented around the station of middle- or upper-class white women and involved suffrage and political equality.
  2. Second-wave feminism attempted to further combat social and cultural inequalities.
  3. Third-wave feminism includes renewed campaigning for women’s greater influence in politics.

The movement of feminism turned into womanism when skin color was added to it. It is a feminism that is “stronger in color”, nearly identical to “Black Feminism”. However, Womanism does not need to be prefaced by the word “Black”, the word automatically concerns black women. A Womanist is a woman who loves women and appreciates women’s culture and power as something that is incorporated into the world as a whole. Womanism addresses the racist and classist aspects of white feminism and actively opposes separatist ideologies. It includes the word “man”, recognizing that Black men are an integral part of Black women’s lives as their children, lovers, and family members. Womanism accounts for the ways in which black women support and empower black men, and serves as a tool for understanding the Black woman’s relationship to men as different from the white woman’s. It seeks to acknowledge and praise the sexual power of Black women while recognizing a history of sexual violence. This perspective is often used as a means for analyzing Black Women’s literature, as it marks the place where race, class, gender, and sexuality intersect. Womanism is unique because it does not necessarily imply any political position or value system other than the honoring of Black women’s strength and experiences. Because it recognizes that women are survivors in a world that is oppressive on multiple platforms, it seeks to celebrate the ways in which women negotiate these oppressions in their individual lives.

But a general public like me doesn’t bother about this meaning. For we people, it’s something like a caste. Like, Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, womanism is also a caste according to general people like me. Our understanding with this fact or strange word is not clear at all. Where there are actually two kinds of people in the world (yes, She males are also there), male and female. My understanding from all the movements is, as the society has become male dominating, so Females are also in a need of equality. They are trying to prove that actually Males are not superior; either they are inferior than female or atleast of same level. Again the old nurtured topic of Superiority Complex and Inferiority complex comes. The more movements or actions will take place, the more the Feminism or womanism will come under scanner, and the more it will come under scanner, the more public will become aware. The more the awareness, the more criticism and most of the time criticism means negative feedback.

Yes in a country like India, where Rape cases are increasing day by day and there are many reasons to blame like poverty, illiteracy, greed but still humanity is there. If there is some reservation for the female in everywhere, from school to bus, train even in participation in elections also, then the first and foremost outcome is rage against them. Position can’t be offered but to be given.

Thus the root of feminism/womanism needs to be revised again. Feeding baby or doing household work doesn’t make them dependent or make them less civilized. It’s better to advertise about what they are doing and let’s make people aware of how much respect do those work deserve. Forcefully enforcement of laws and some mere phenomenon of showing how great woman are, is actually wastage of time, money and in real dishonoring the great job they have done. Let’s stop thinking of respecting female or woman and start respecting their jobs/works. We guys don’t want to feel threatened of the movement named Feminism or womanism. We want to put ourselves in a single word named humanity along with females also.

Let’s see a world, when people will be more interested in respecting other’s value, rather than indulging themselves in inventing new words to name some movement.

Sougata

13.01.2014